At Calidascope we have a digital learning platform for our clients that we call, Leaning Story. It’s been a great project that has us regularly writing up learning inputs, delivered through a mobile interface, aimed at cost effective distribution.

This past week, one of the modules I researched and wrote up was all about ‘Body Language‘. It often has me reading far more than I probably need to, and I often get distracted going down rabbit holes I shouldn’t.

My curiosity got me hooked on an article that came up about body language and how to know if a woman is interested in man or not? Of course a Google search was executed, and I got down to reading about things I didn’t need to for the Learning Story project. I did discover a world of information with regards to body language and dating.

When it comes to reading body language and determining if a man is interested in a woman, it’s incredibly simple. I know this from my own experience, having watched other men, and even watching male mammals. We’re all pretty basic and definitely similar. I don’t think much evolutionary progress has been made in this sphere of male survival skill. To know if a man is interested in a woman, here is the ‘more or less’ comprehensive list of things to look out for:

  • Mouth drops open, and stays like that
  • Tongue hangs out, and stays like that
  • Struggle to string sentences together, and continues like that throughout the night

There are a few variations, but essentially that’s it.

Not so simple with woman (of course it isn’t). There’s a heck of a lot to look out for, and to pay attention to. Some lists online can stretch into the thirties of things. Here’s a short list:

  • She looks at your lips
  • She draws attention to her lips
  • She cocks her brow
  • Her arms stay by her side
  • She leans into you
  • She flips her hair
  • She pushes her chest out
  • Her pupils dilate
  • She bats her eyelids
  • Her palms are upturned

I ask you, what man, in the state I described above, can manage to take in all of those cues? Add in a beer or two, and stupidly a Tequila. We don’t stand a chance.

And you can’t just focus on one of them. Apparently it’s the entire picture that matters. EveryDayKnow suggests…

“It’s really important when looking at body language to look at the full picture. A woman giggling a lot can mean she likes you, but it can also mean she’s a giggly kind of person. If she touches herself seductively while looking at you, she’s trying to seduce you for one reason, or another, but if she doesn’t do that, it might simply mean she’s too shy to do so. She could still want to seduce you, or be seduced by you. And shy or not, we’re all distracted sometimes due to events in our lives, but it doesn’t mean we aren’t interested in the person in front of us. It just means we’re pre-occupied.”

And we think we can replace all of this through a digital platform? Not gonna happen. Not in my lifetime, anyway. I laugh at us human beings. Good luck to us all.